Why Me?

Why me?

This is the question we will always ask when something unpleasant happen to us. Whenever life is not smooth sailing, whenever we are face with difficulties, what do we do? First thing most people will ask is "Why me?" " why does it happen to me ?" "Why?"

Then we start going into self pity. Lower our self esteem and blame ourself.  Or will just say I am unlucky.

Asking questions to ourselves is good. Infact, asking questions and knowing how to ask questions can even make people rich, look at Oprah Winfrey. She becomes a multi-millionaire by just sitting down and asking her guest questions!

Instead of "Why me always fail in my test? Why me only got a scolding from teacher? Why me so unlucky get involved in this mess? " Let's turn the question around and ask "Why not me?" Or "Why not she/he"  Then look at it from the opposite angle. Example, "why me fail in this test, and not Janice?" Answer:  " Because she is smart? Because she studies harder? Because she pays more attention in class? Because she does her work well and with great concentration?" In this way, we are actually slowly going towards the positive mode.

Marianne Legato, MD, founder of the Partnership for Gender-Specific Medicine at Columbia University, whose latest book is Why Men Die First: How to Lengthen Your Lifespan, says

 "To get motivated in a healthy way, start by asking yourself a series of questions," 

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Get-Motivated-to-Change-Your-Lifestyle-LLuminari-Guide#ixzz2qZn8pBVu

So let's ask ourselves a series of questions. Questions starting with "How" is also a good start especially for motivating young children to learn.

Do not wallow in misery, as it's our life! Take charge of ourselves and action on our part. Just as
John F. Kennedy's famous quote

"My fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country."